Ever wonder about what is going on inside a man’s brain when it comes to dating and relationships? A new book by singer Tyrese Gibson and Rev Run of Run DMC offers insight to the inner thoughts of a man's mind, life lessons and how to find happiness in your relationships.
The book called "Manology," came about after an unexpected disagreement between the two music stars on whether or not marriage is truly meant to last forever. This morning, Tyrese and Rev Run talk with Soledad O'Brien on “Starting Point” to further discuss some of the secrets of the male mind and ultimately help both men and women be more successful in their relationships.
Tyrese, a single dad of a five-year-old girl, admits that he is still hesitant to settle down but the book has advice that can help him and other men “in transition” figure out what their next move is. The Grammy-nominated singer adds that he believes in “getting things out of your system before you finally settle down.”
Rev Run, a married father of six, says the biggest mistake that women make is trying to bring a man into their life before they have their own life.
“The self-love is what you need to have," he says. "Once you create the self-love then you can go out and find love. Many women get lonely or needy and I like to tell them that just because you’re boyless doesn’t mean you have to be joyless.” He says when women create a life built around self-love it is viewed as highly attractive and “that’s how Beyonce got Jay-Z...her being busy and her also being feminine when she was with Jay is what closed it.”
The book also discusses women who share too much information too soon. Tyrese says that when women first meet a man they should “shut up” and stop “spilling your guts over exposing too much information about things you went through in the past.”
He explains that when a man first meets a woman he likely thinks of her as an A+ and by going into multitudes of details about disfunction, infidelity or other situations in your life, “you’ve now devalued yourself” to a D-.
Back in 1983, Vanessa Williams became the first black Miss America and then had to survive a photo scandal. She was able to launch her successful music career and had number one hits like "Save the Best for Last." She went on to star in TV shows like "Ugly Betty" and "Desperate Housewives." At the same time she was working on Broadway all along, winning several award nominations along the way. She says she couldn't have done it though without her mom, Helen.
The two later today are going to be talking at the Essence Music Festival about their mother-daughter relationship, which was a little bit rocky at times. It's also the topic of their new book, which is called "You Have No Idea: A Famous Daughter, Her No-nonsense Mother, and How They Survived Pageants, Hollywood, Love, Loss (and Each Other)."
Vanessa and Helen talk with Soledad on "Starting Point" this morning about their relationship.
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