Ever wonder about what is going on inside a man’s brain when it comes to dating and relationships? A new book by singer Tyrese Gibson and Rev Run of Run DMC offers insight to the inner thoughts of a man's mind, life lessons and how to find happiness in your relationships.
The book called "Manology," came about after an unexpected disagreement between the two music stars on whether or not marriage is truly meant to last forever. This morning, Tyrese and Rev Run talk with Soledad O'Brien on “Starting Point” to further discuss some of the secrets of the male mind and ultimately help both men and women be more successful in their relationships.
Tyrese, a single dad of a five-year-old girl, admits that he is still hesitant to settle down but the book has advice that can help him and other men “in transition” figure out what their next move is. The Grammy-nominated singer adds that he believes in “getting things out of your system before you finally settle down.”
Rev Run, a married father of six, says the biggest mistake that women make is trying to bring a man into their life before they have their own life.
“The self-love is what you need to have," he says. "Once you create the self-love then you can go out and find love. Many women get lonely or needy and I like to tell them that just because you’re boyless doesn’t mean you have to be joyless.” He says when women create a life built around self-love it is viewed as highly attractive and “that’s how Beyonce got Jay-Z...her being busy and her also being feminine when she was with Jay is what closed it.”
The book also discusses women who share too much information too soon. Tyrese says that when women first meet a man they should “shut up” and stop “spilling your guts over exposing too much information about things you went through in the past.”
He explains that when a man first meets a woman he likely thinks of her as an A+ and by going into multitudes of details about disfunction, infidelity or other situations in your life, “you’ve now devalued yourself” to a D-.
Ever had a moment where you have gotten upset and made a poor decision? “The Life-Choice Coach,” Ken Lindner says he knows how to control those urges which will ultimately lead to success, personally and at work. Lindner, author of "Your Killer Emotions: 7 Steps To Mastering The Toxic Emotions, Urges, And Impulses That Sabotage You" joins “Starting Point” this morning to discuss his new book and how it will help others make life-enhancing personal and professional decisions.
Linder who has counseled people for over three decades on making positive life choices says, “The one thing that has stood out is that you can be brilliant, you can have the best life strategies but if you make a decision when you’re angry, when you’re hurt, when you feel resentful, jealous – you can make a toxic decision.” He says people make that that toxic decision “because you want to opt for a quick fix, you want to retaliate quickly, you want to feel good.”
When it comes to keeping you emotions in check Linder says “you never want to make a life choice when you are overwhelmed with emotions.” To deal with the emotions properly, Linden says you should “step back, you want to be cognitively clear and you want to make a strategic choice.” He adds figuring out ahead of time what you want out of every interaction is one of the best things you can do in an emotional state.
“Fear can be positive, anger if it catalyzes you to do something positive can be very very good,” says Linder. He goes on to say that “emotions per say aren’t positive or negative. It’s the expression of the emotion which is positive or negative.” He says there are certain life steps that can be taken to achieve any goal but the key to acting them out is being “cognitively clear.” Linder says his book explains just how to use your emotions to get to a level of clearness.
The royal family is preparing to file a criminal complaint today against the photographer who took the photos of a topless Duchess of Cambridge sunbathing in the south of France. The photos are now viral and Buckingham Palace has already filed a civil lawsuit against the French magazine, Closer. Prince William and his wife are currently on a royal tour and are holding their composure as lawyers are attempting to prevent these photos from being published anywhere else. Writer Christopher Andersen is the author of “William and Kate: A Royal Love Story”. He joins the “Starting Point” panel this morning to discuss the particulars of the situation.
“I think they’re very embarrassed,” Andersen says about William and Kate’s attitude during the tour. “They want some action taken.” Andersen adds that Prince William and his brother Harry blame the press for their mother's death and the Prince feels that “he’s had to put up with the press.”
When asked by Soledad O’Brien if this situation is more about privacy than about topless photos, Andersen responds, “Precisely, this is a deterrent.” “They’re drawing a line in the sand,” he says. The “William and Kate" author thinks this has “to do with the expectation that there will soon be a royal child.” Andersen says [Kate] “will be expected to produce an heir pretty soon” and is overdue compared to Princess Diana and the queen.
CNN Contributor Ron Brownstein asks Andersen if the royal couple’s expectation of a certain level of privacy is unrealistic in this day and age. “I believe so,” Andersen answers. “You can’t put this genie back in the bottle once it’s out there on the Internet.”
Andersen's argument remains that Kate was in a public place that is visible from the street. “It’s a bit disingenuous,” Andersen says. “They should really just keep their clothes on unless they’re behind a very high wall or indoors, because the press is gonna be out there. And they’re gonna be out there with satellites and telephoto lens and everything technology could provide.” The press is willing to take risks even if there are legal consequences. “Look at the finances here,” Andersen adds. “They’ve already made millions-sold millions of copies here.”
Nearly a decade after a deadly nightclub fire in Rhode Island, John Barylick, attorney and author of “Killer Show,” has written an account of what may have happened in February 2003 that killed 96 people in ten minutes and injured over 200.
“It was a combination of things,” Barylick explains on Starting Point. “What we learned over those seven years of research was that it was not simply one blunder that caused it. It was the confluence of numerous instances of a band and club owner putting profits and convenience over safety which combined caused a fatal, critical mass.”
Award-winning journalist Lynn Povich is one of 46 women who organized and filed a lawsuit with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission in 1970, citing discrimination against women in hiring and promotion. More than 30 years later, the first promoted female senior editor of Newsweek writes of the experience in her book, “The Good Girls Revolt.”
“We would actually go in to the ladies room. Look under the stalls, see who was there, and if no one else was there, we’d approach someone at the sink and say, ‘You know I have to check a story by this guy and it’s terrible, or I could do it better,’ and if they responded, we’d say, ‘We’re thinking of doing something to change this,’" Povich says of organizing women at Newsweek to file the complaint. "And then we would start reeling people in one by one.”
For Povich, there has been “enormous progress” for women seeking jobs in the media industry and in corporations since 1970. However, there are "still very few women at the top" in the media industry and in corporations, she says. In Newsweek, for example, only 43 of 49 cover stories published in 2009 were written by men.
“I do think that there's still an imbalance," Povich argues. "I think also that women need to push themselves more... It’s a question about how much is discrimination and how much do women still need to have the confidence to go forward, because they certainly have the skill and they certainly have the talent.”
Newly retired olympian Dara Torres will not be competing in this year’s Olympics but that is not stopping her and many other athletes from weighing in on the recent controversy over USA uniforms that were made in China. Torres says, “We all want to see the global economy do well but here in the US the economy is not too good either. So you know…wearing the US uniform, going out there, representing the United States…would be nice if it was actually made in the United States.”
The Olympic swimmer who also holds 3 world records and 12 olympic medals is sharing her thoughts on soccer star Hope Solo’s comments about partying and hooking up between athletes during the Olympics. Torres says, “Sometimes its tough… everyone is pretty much laser focused and getting ready for the events … the swim teams and teams that I’ve been on were really set in getting ready and focusing on our goals but once the swimming is over…yea the athletes tend to go out and we have our curfews… but its not to say that little things don’t happen here and there.” The swimming star added, “I mean you’re in a village with the hottest athletes in the world, the most competitive and they’re the top athletes in their sport. So some things are bound to happen here and there.”
Torres who has spent 20 years of competing for Olympic gold admits that she “thought she had a pretty decent shot making the team,” but after coming in 4th in the 2012 olympic trials decided to retire. The 45-year-old says, “I knew I had my work cut out for me…I had lots of obstacles, I had major knee reconstructive surgery, my coach passed away a little over a year ago and so there are a lot of up and downs but you know I went out there, I gave it everything I had and…even though I didn’t make it, I know I left no stones unturned.”
James Mann discusses his new book "The Obamians: The Struggle Inside the White House to Redefine American Power". In his book Mann compares the foreign policies of the last three presidents, particularly focusing on the Obama administration.
The author in residence at Johns Hopkins University describes “the Obamians” as people with a different view on the world “who had worked with Obama starting in the campaign but really hadn’t served in the Clinton administration because they were too young.”
Mann adds, "the Obamians" tend to be "democarats age 50.. or younger and ... hold a common different view of the world."
Throughout her childhood in Kenya, Auma Obama heard stories about her half brother in America. His name was Barack. It wasn't until they were both adults that they met. It was in Chicago in the 1980s.
She says there was an instant connection between Auma and the man who would become the 44th president of the United States. It's a connection that Auma writes about in her new book, which is called "And Then Life Happens."
She talks with Soledad this morning, explaining why she chose to write the book and what it was like to meet "Barry" for the first time.
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