Ever had a moment where you have gotten upset and made a poor decision? “The Life-Choice Coach,” Ken Lindner says he knows how to control those urges which will ultimately lead to success, personally and at work. Lindner, author of "Your Killer Emotions: 7 Steps To Mastering The Toxic Emotions, Urges, And Impulses That Sabotage You" joins “Starting Point” this morning to discuss his new book and how it will help others make life-enhancing personal and professional decisions.
Linder who has counseled people for over three decades on making positive life choices says, “The one thing that has stood out is that you can be brilliant, you can have the best life strategies but if you make a decision when you’re angry, when you’re hurt, when you feel resentful, jealous – you can make a toxic decision.” He says people make that that toxic decision “because you want to opt for a quick fix, you want to retaliate quickly, you want to feel good.”
When it comes to keeping you emotions in check Linder says “you never want to make a life choice when you are overwhelmed with emotions.” To deal with the emotions properly, Linden says you should “step back, you want to be cognitively clear and you want to make a strategic choice.” He adds figuring out ahead of time what you want out of every interaction is one of the best things you can do in an emotional state.
“Fear can be positive, anger if it catalyzes you to do something positive can be very very good,” says Linder. He goes on to say that “emotions per say aren’t positive or negative. It’s the expression of the emotion which is positive or negative.” He says there are certain life steps that can be taken to achieve any goal but the key to acting them out is being “cognitively clear.” Linder says his book explains just how to use your emotions to get to a level of clearness.